“Give yourself time.”
Jean Turnman was 53 years old in 1985 when a man she did not even know began calling her, begging her to go on a date with him. At the time, she had no interest in seeking another love after her first husband had passed, and she had created her own life without a companion.
As fate would have it, this man- her future husband, Garver, persisted and on the fourth phone call, she finally agreed to go out with him.
Their first date was a trip to Mount Airy, North Carolina during which they enjoyed a dinner followed by riding around town and ended up going to a dance. Afterwards, he drive her home and as Jean recalls, “the light started burning”.
After their first date, they became inseparable. Because they had so many common interests, they were able to enjoy the same hobbies, and everyday activities became labors of love for the two of them.
Four years later, they wed and were married for 30 years. Garver built the house that they spent their years in and tended to a huge garden that they shared with their neighbors. As Jean tells it, Some men have their golf, and Garver had his garden.”
Jean remembers their time together as “heaven on earth” and wished she had met him 30 years earlier. Her advice to young couples is to not fall in love too quickly but to give yourself time.