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Coping Techniques for Caregivers

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Join us virtually on Thursday, May 27th at 4:00pm. RSVP today by emailing Marketing@CommonwealthSL.com 

There’s no getting around it. Caring for an aging family member can be difficult and stressful. Their care, health, safety and happiness of your loved one all rests on your shoulders, and sometimes that responsibility can be overwhelming. The last year, in particular, has been incredibly stressful with a dramatic impact on everyone’s lives. Everything you know about human connection and touch has been put to the test, but understanding how to cope with these challenges can help you become a better caregiver to your loved one.

While you’re taking care of your loved one, it’s important to take care of yourself too. The basic principles of self-care still apply and are still available to you, they may just look a little different now. Take time for yourself to still do the things you enjoy like reading, writing in a journal, or gardening. Taking a walk around the block is still one of the best ways to clear your mind, get fresh air and sunshine, help you refocus, and stay energized. It has also been proven effective in reducing anxiety and depression. Enjoying these quiet moments gives us the opportunity to take advantage of the simple things in life we may have taken for granted in the past.

In this free presentation, we will help you learn how to cope with caregiving stress as well as share tips and tools that you can use to make sure you keep yourself healthy and strong. We’ll go over points from setting goals to providing resources so you can continue to give your loved one the care they deserve.

RSVP today by emailing Marketing@CommonwealthSL.com for the day and time to join us locally in person or to join us virtually on Thursday, May 27th at 4:00pm.

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The Story of Phil & Jean

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We all know the marriage vows, “to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part”. Some of us live those vows to the letter. Jean is one of these individuals.

We know that many spouses provide care at home for their partners with dementia and Alzheimer’s disease. Theirs is a loving and difficult journey which requires significant patience and tenacity. While this is the story of Phil’s experience with dementia and Alzheimer’s disease, it is also the story of Jean’s evolution as a caregiver. From managing it all on her own to bringing in supportive services and ultimately, choosing a team to entrust Phil’s care to, Jean was able to become his wife again.

“When I look back, I realize Phil had been showing signs of dementia several years before he was diagnosed. He saw our family doctor and then a neurologist. After testing by the neurologist, they sent him for more testing at the Neuropsychological Services of Virginia. One year later, he went back for follow up testing. As the years went by, he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, continually managed by tweaks and changes in his medication.

My goal was to keep Phil at home, but as the years went by, the situation worsened. He was looking in the cabinets constantly, and I removed everything I thought could harm him, but I often found him gagging on pickling spice or something else you would never think someone would try to eat.

For a long time, I could leave him at home, but when I became uneasy with this, someone from AmeriCare or Right at Home came to stay with him. He didn’t want or think he needed help, so I told him they were coming to clean the house. They were there to do whatever was necessary to make him think that’s why they were there. Some of them did clean, but their job was to take care of Phil, and many times I would come home to them putting together a puzzle or watching a TV show together.

The years of constant stress from being on guard to keep him from doing something that would hurt himself were very difficult. He behaved like a toddler, putting anything he found on the floor in his mouth. I was afraid he would go on our dock and fall overboard. I sold the riding lawn mower, put alarms on the doors, and tried everything anyone suggested. Nothing worked.

I realized I needed support, so I started going to the Alzheimer’s Support Group that was held at Commonwealth Senior Living in Kilmarnock and found it to be very helpful. Everyone was very supportive of each other and the facilitator was extremely helpful. This was the highlight of my month.

This had been going on for 10 years, and I always told the doctor everything that had happened since our last visit. The situation was worsening, and the doctor suggested it would be best for both of us for him to not live at home anymore. Long story short, he became a resident in the Sweet Memories Neighborhood at Commonwealth Senior Living. It is safe unit with nothing that can harm anyone, and they have many activities for the residents such as daily chair exercises and throwing a big beach ball back and forth with each other and the staff instructor while they are sitting in their chairs. They have many, many activities to occupy their time. Their medication is given to them as prescribed by the doctor. They have a private dining room where they eat their meals. There is a wonderful music program that has given me so many special memories. They celebrate every holiday. They have a Family Night Dinner every month, usually with a theme. It would be impossible for me to tell you everything they do for the residents.

The stress was lifted off me. I knew he was in a safe place and receiving good care. I visited him three days a week for a couple of hours each time. Everyone called him by name even when I would take him to the Assisted Living side, all the staff said hello to him by name. I was able to relax and visit Phil in a happy atmosphere and not be constantly monitoring what he was doing.

Everyone who works there, from the moment you come in the door until you leave, is helpful, courteous, and pleasant. I highly recommend Commonwealth Senior Living. It was a lifesaver for me.”

The celebration of Phil’s life took place in February. It was an absolute privilege to care for Phil, and to have you both as a part of our CSL family. If you are caring for a loved one with dementia and Alzheimer’s disease, we want you to know that you are not alone. Our community teams can offer support groups, tips, assessments, and much more. Find the community nearest you for more information: https://www.commonwealthsl.com/our-communities/

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What’s the Difference?

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Up until the 1980s, seniors who could not live safely in their own home or with family had little access to institutional care. Since the 1980s, senior living has developed from adult care homes to a variety of vibrant lifestyles and progression of care options ranging between Independent Living, Assisted Living and Memory Care. We want to make sure you understand the differences between the levels of care as well as the difference between senior living and nursing homes, in order to help you make the best decision for you and your loved one.

Only about 1% of the U.S. population is educated about senior living due to experiencing it firsthand as a family or through working in the industry. Outside of that 1%, when individuals hear the term “senior living,” they may lump all the options into the same category based on their experience.

So, what exactly are the differences between these options when it comes to Commonwealth Senior Living?

Independent Living
This is the perfect lifestyle choice for those who want to maintain their independence and freedom, but want to be free of the worries and responsibilities of home ownership. Choosing to live in one of our communities offers the comfort, convenience and  amenities you want, and also includes many opportunities to be active, engaged, and enjoy a healthy social life. This lifestyle offers the simplified and improved living that our residents deserve. Delicious restaurant-style dining options, weekly housekeeping, maintenance-free living, and access to a variety of engaging programs means you never need to worry about anything but living life to the fullest.

Assisted Living
There may come a time when you are no longer able, or no longer wish to live alone. Normal daily activities such as cleaning, bathing or cooking may become too much for you to safely handle anymore. Assisted Living is an ideal option to provide a balance of personalized support, delivered with dignity, respect, and independence. At Commonwealth Senior Living, you will be able to continue living an active, rewarding lifestyle with support from our associates in managing these daily activities. If safety or quality of life have become a concern, it is time to consider assisted living. With robust and multi-dimensional programming, our residents live a vibrant life focused on doing more want to’s verses have to’s.  Our communities offer the best of both worlds where residents have the independence they desire with the knowledge that personal care and support services are available if and when they need them.  With 5 different levels of care within our Assisted Living, our residents have the peace of mind that their address does not need to change even if the level of support they need does.

Memory Care
Our Sweet Memories program is specifically designed to deliver the highest quality of care, support, and engagement to our residents living with Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia, as well as the safety and security they require. This award-winning program goes above and beyond the standards of care, blending the warm, homelike feeling of our memory care neighborhoods with personalized care delivered by compassionate, specially trained caregivers. Our memory care communities are intentionally designed to be cozy and offer the calm familiarity of routine schedules and consistent staffing with engaging programs and activities. We understand that no two Sweet Memories residents are at the same place in their journey and their needs, abilities, and preferences are unique. We provide person-centered care to ensure each resident enjoys the most appropriate support possible.

Skilled Nursing Facilities/Nursing Homes
Skilled Nursing Facilities are designed for seniors who are no longer able to care for themselves independently, are not mobile without assistance, require  around-the-clock clinical care and medical monitoring due to chronic or deteriorating physical and health conditions, or require extensive rehabilitation following an injury or major surgery. In a more clinical setting, residents receive assistance with all activities of daily living, but primarily need ongoing palliative care. Some recreational activities are provided, but the main focus is on skilled care, safety, and comfort.  Due to the highly skilled care and physician oversight required at Skilled Nursing Facilities, this is the most expensive level of residential care available for seniors.

Today, our seniors are presented with more options than ever before. Understanding the differences between each of these is the next step in deciding which option is right for you or your loved one. For more guidance and support in this process, click the button below to take a free, anonymous assessment that will recommend options that could help based on national research.


If you would like more guidance on finding the right fit for your loved one,
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Click here to learn more about the lifestyle in the community nearest you.

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Is Senior Living safe right now?

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At a time when headlines show increasing cases of corona virus around the globe and provide guidance on isolation and social distancing with additional precautions recommended for seniors, it may seem counterintuitive to consider senior living. However, for many families, the support and unique lifestyle senior living offers is essential to their peace of mind. Here are the Top 5 Reasons to consider Senior Living.

  1. Aging’s timeline has not paused: First and foremost, illnesses and conditions do not stop because of a pandemic. In fact, decreased doctor visits and interactions with peers and caregivers might mean conditions like high blood pressure, diabetes, and heart disease could be going unchecked. With less oversight of diet, exercise, and medication management, some seniors may experience more rapid progression of their conditions. At Commonwealth Senior Living, our team partners with residents’ primary healthcare providers to deliver the support and daily oversight each resident needs and notifies these providers of any changes in order to reassess needs and adjust care plans quickly.
  2. Access to nutritious meals and supplies is not a concern: One of the many concerns families have when thinking about their aging loved ones isolating at home is their access to fresh, healthy meals. Seniors with any ailments which would put them in a higher risk category for COVID-19 complications have been advised not to leave the home unless it is absolutely essential. Even for those who are able to get to the market, many basic items are often out of stock (meat, cleaning supplies, and paper products). This means that they are relying heavily on pantry items and frozen foods which often have higher sodium and preservative content and less nutrition. Conversely, Commonwealth Senior Living residents continue to enjoy award-winning, farm-to-table dining with a variety of options prepared daily as we have direct access to the suppliers in a way that individuals living at home do not.
  3. Your emotional health matters too: The truth is that isolation and depression go hand in hand. As seniors (or any of us, for that matter!) continue in these weeks and months of isolation seeing very few people, the likelihood of developing depression increases. However, this does not have to be the case. While senior living communities are practicing social distancing per CDC guidelines, residents are continuing to enjoy activities with the recommended 6’ distance as well to include exercise, games, and trivia. Our teams are constantly working to connect residents with their loved ones via Facetime, window visits, and even recently organized parades at several communities. These are connections and technology that individuals may not have access to at home.
  4. There is no substitution for infection control: Commonwealth Senior Living has long had processes in practice to prevent or contain viruses like norovirus or influenza. Maintaining strict disinfectant policies and enhanced housekeeping protocols are nothing new for us. In addition to this, we also follow the CDC’s rigid infection control guidelines in place at this time for senior living. These policies and procedures helped us prepare for the current climate. We are also testing all new residents as well as residents returning from hospital or rehab visits as an added safety precaution. These safety measures and oversight are far beyond what would be possible to create at home.
  5. A team of experts protecting your safety: Finally, our residents enjoy a team of housekeepers working to ensure their home, our common areas are clean and sanitized on a daily basis. All associates are wearing masks, and we have plenty of personal protective equipment to keep everyone safe. With recent shortages of cleaning and protective gear for the average consumer, our residents’ families rest assured that their loved ones will never worry about being without the supplies they need. Residents are monitored daily and treated to interactive games and one on one activities through our innovative, award-winning programming. All of these steps are taken to ensure both residents and associates remain healthy.

If you have been considering senior living for a loved one but have worried that this may not be the right time, consider the information above and reach out to the community nearest you to discuss your options.

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Glen Campbell: I’ll Be Me

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Country music legend, Glen Campbell was known for such hits as “Wichita Lineman” and “Rhinestone Cowboy” as well as a variety show and movie appearances. In his final years, Campbell struggled with something that our residents and family members know well: Alzheimer’s disease. After decades of performing on stage, for TV, movies and recording albums, Glen Campbell toured the country in his farewell tour in 2012. He had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years’ earlier showing signs of memory loss and confusion. Director James Keach and his crew documented both the performances and his life off stage.

In the film we watch as his wife, Kim Campbell redirects him when he gets frustrated. His adult children play music with him and prompt him with lyrics when he forgets. The documentary shows both a glimpse into the outstanding talent of this American icon as well as the very familiar love and struggles that all of our families face. It is hard to see a loved one changing before you.

Commonwealth Senior Living is privileged to work with PCH Films to screen this poignant documentary across 22 locations in Virginia. We believe that sharing Mr. Campbell’s story and the story of his family will help chip away at the taboo of talking about of Alzheimer’s disease. Each of our screenings will be followed by question and answer sessions with our memory care experts. Please join us for this powerful, cinematic experience. Admission is free, but seating is limited. Please call to reserve your space. Screening details are below:

August 6 1:00 PM      Rex Theatre 113 E Grayson St, Galax, VA 24333 276-266-9091
August 13 2:00 PM      First United Methodist 402 Suffolk Ave, Richlands, VA 24641 276-991-3166
August 19 6:30 PM      Pleasant View Methodist 18416 Lee Hwy, Abingdon, VA 24210 276-695-2056
August 22 5:30 PM      Christiansburg Recreation Center 1600 N Franklin St, Christiansburg, VA 24073 540-283-9667
August 29 11:00 AM      Radford Recreation Center 200 George St, Radford, VA 24141 540-922-1230

 

August 6 6:30 PM        Beth Carr Baptist Church 25 Church St, Halifax, VA 24558 434-446-1522
August 21 1:00 PM        Commonwealth Senior Living at Stratford House 888-375-8997
August 21 5:00 PM        Handley Regional Library 100 W Piccadilly St, Winchester, VA 22601 540-227-8956
August 27 1:00 PM        Discovery United Methodist Church 13000 Gayton Rd, Richmond, VA 23233 804-965-2155
August 29 1:30 PM        Colonial Heights Senior Center 157 Roanoke Avenue; Colonial Heights, VA 23834 804-271-9787

 

August 22 6:00 PM        Violet Crown Cinema 200 West Main Street, Charlottesville, VA 22902 434-481-1631

 

August 3 2:00 PM      James City County Recreational Center 5301 Longhill Rd, Williamsburg, VA 23188 757-383-7157
August 6 10:30 AM      Kilmarnock Baptist Church, 65 E Church St, Kilmarnock, VA 22482 804-480-3098
August 14 9:00 AM      Rappahannock Church of Christ; 4324 Richmond Rd, Warsaw, VA 22572 804-445-2256
August 14 4:00 PM      Commonwealth Senior Living at Hampton 757-301-4630
August 20 6:00 PM      New Life Ministry 3450 George Washington Memorial Hwy, Hayes, VA 23072 804-445-2426

 

July 31 11:00 AM    Zion Baptist Church 26463 Metompkin Rd, Parksley, VA 23421 757-693-4384
August 1 10:00 AM    Ocean View Senior Center 9520 20th Bay St, Norfolk, VA 23518 757-337-4086
August 14 5:00 PM    Churchland Library 4934 High Street W; Portsmouth, VA 23703 757-351-4904
August 23 4:00 PM    John Knox Towers 1210 Colonial Avenue; Norfolk, VA 23517 757-272-1056
August 23 1:00 PM    Bayside Library 936 Independence Blvd; Virginia Beach, VA 23455 757-356-5290
September 14 10:30 AM    Rivercrest Community Center 1001 River Walk Pkwy, Chesapeake, VA 23320 757-448-3064

 

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Music and Memory

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Do you ever hear a song that instantly brings you back to a specific memory or feeling?  At Commonwealth Senior Living, we know that music is a vital part of living a meaningful life, and it’s especially important for people with Alzheimer’s and dementia.  In fact, recent studies have shown there is a significant connection between music and memory in the brain. Psychology Today describes a recent study from the University of California, Davis in which researchers mapped the regions of the brain that were activated when people listened to familiar music.  The researchers found that the medial prefrontal cortex was highly activated by the music. This is also one of the last parts of the brain to become damaged by Alzheimer’s disease, which may explain why people with Alzheimer’s and dementia respond to music so strongly.  The researchers also found, unsurprisingly, that the songs linked to the strongest memories evoked the highest emotional response and the most activity in the medial prefrontal cortex. This study shows that people have a significant physical and emotional response to music.*

While we now have the science to back it up, at Commonwealth Senior Living, we have known for a long time that music can be transformative for a person with Alzheimer’s or dementia.  That’s why we love our Sweet Melodies program, which is one of our signature programs in which our Program Directors get to know what songs trigger happy memories or positive response from our Sweet Memories residents.  After the six-week long process, each resident has a personalized playlist with songs that create a strong, positive emotional response. This is a great resource for both families and our team to connect to each resident on a personal level. For those who have lost verbal skills, Sweet Melodies ignites a spark within the resident and resonates deeply within them.  For more information about our Sweet Melodies program, visit one of our communities or email us at AskTheExperts@CommonwealthSL.com.

*Berglund, Christopher. “Why Do the Songs from Your Past Evoke Such Vivid Memories?” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 11 Dec. 2013.

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Back to the Future in 2019

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We all have days when we would love to drop everything and travel somewhere else. For 3 years Commonwealth Senior Living has offered our residents and their families an opportunity to experience the sights, sounds, music, art and culture of other countries and states from the comfort of their own home with our Travel the Word Signature Program. But what if the place you would like to experience is in the past? This year, we will take our Commonwealth family “Back to the Future” to revisit some of our favorite inventions, dances, music, historical events and popular culture fads though out the decades.

Each month, our program professionals will be developing a unique calendar of activities, a menu of popular foods, and outings that focus on a decade in time beginning in January with 1900-1909 and wrapping up 2019 with the present in December.

We will incorporate new and engaging programs that focus on the decade theme for the month while also meeting the eight domains of wellness which help ensure a well-rounded quality of life for all of our residents living in Assisted, Memory Care, and Independent living. These domains include the categories of cognitive, creative, intellectual, nature, outings and spirituality, physical, productive, reflective and contemplative, sensory and social programs.

Imagine all the new things you could learn and experience about the past between 1910 -1920 our decade for February. Maybe revisit the Titanic which sank in 1912 through documentaries and YouTube videos of actual submarine footage that were not easily available to our generation of residents. Did you know the first sewing machine was invented in 1910? What if you could dance the evening away on a yellow brick road in ruby red slippers at a Wizard of Oz themed party, which opened in 1910?

All this and more awaits our family of Commonwealth Senior Living residents in 2019. Where will March take you? Come visit a Commonwealth Senior Living Community and see where we are going during 1920-1929. It’s sure to be a great trip!

Find the community closest to you by visiting our communities page.

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Autumn Salad with Chef Andre

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At Commonwealth Senior Living, we are proud to serve our residents nutritious, filling, and delicious meals made from locally-sourced ingredients.  We also know that caregivers need to take care of themselves by eating nutrient-dense foods, which will provide plenty of energy. No matter who you are, you can use a quick, easy, delicious meal like this Autumn Salad presented by Chef Andre at Commonwealth Senior Living at Gloucester House.  

 

With hearty ingredients like kale, apples, cranberries, butternut squash and a simple vinaigrette, there’s no reason not to try this perfect salad for fall!

 

If you’d like to see Chef Andre demonstrate his tricks for making this salad, check out this video: https://wtvr.com/2018/10/18/hearty-and-colorful-autumn-salad/ We’re very proud that he’s been featured on the local news again!

 

Autumn Salad

Prep Time: 15 minutes

Cook Time: 10 minutes

Ready Time: 20 minutes

Servings: 2

Salad:

1 Large Bunch of kale, ribs removed and chopped
1 Romaine lettuce heart, chopped
1 fresh gala apple, sliced (Toss in lemon juice to keep these from turning brown)
½ cup dried cranberries
½ cup candied pecans
¼ cup sliced pickled beets
¼ cup crumbled bleu cheese
¼ cup diced butternut squash, roasted
½ each small red onion sliced

DRESSING

½ cup olive oil
¼ cup red wine vinegar
¼ cup fresh squeezed orange juice
1 teaspoon white cane sugar
Sea Salt
Ground Black Pepper

1. In a medium bowl, whisk together red wine vinegar, orange juice, and sugar.

2. Continue to whisk while slowly adding the olive oil to insure the dressing pulls together.

3. Season dressing with salt and pepper to taste

4. This is where it gets FUN!!!! Be Creative!

5. Using a large dinner plate, place greens in the center of the plate

6. Add sliced apples, dried cranberries, pecans, bleu cheese, red onion, pickled beets, and butternut squash

7. Drizzle dressing over salad and serve

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Commonwealth Senior Living Expands to Eastern Shore of Virginia

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Hermitage Eastern Shore to Join Commonwealth Senior Living (CSL) communities and Add Independent Living and Memory Care services.

On October 10, 2018 CSL announced that it has entered into an agreement with Pinnacle Living to purchase Hermitage Eastern Shore in Onancock. CSL has committed to investing $3 million in capital improvements to the senior living community, converting the skilled nursing wing into memory care and adding independent living services.

The community, which will be known as Commonwealth Senior Living at the Eastern Shore, will have the area’s first dedicated memory care neighborhood and be the only independent living provider on the shore. “We understand the importance of continuing the mission Pinnacle Living has so capably carried on for more than 50 years, and we are both excited and honored to have the opportunity to bring our passion and our expertise in caring for seniors to the Eastern Shore, ” said CSL CEO, Richard Brewer. “While nursing home utilization has declined over the last 10 years, the need or more affordable options such as independent living, assisted living, and memory care has grown. We are making a significant commitment to ensure those needs are met.”

“This decision came after many months of careful consideration and research into who would be a good partner to continue our mission of enriching life’s journey,” said Pinnacle Living President and CEO Christopher P. Henderson. “We are pleased with CSL’s plan to further invest in the community, the additional services and its commitment to ensuring the community will remain a resource to seniors on the Eastern Shore for the long term.”

All residents living in the community are expected to remain and will not see any increase in their base rate for at least 12 months. Those residents currently residing in nursing will be assessed in the coming weeks to ensure their needs can be met in assisted living. It is expected that those residents will see a reduction in their monthly fee once the transition to assisted living is complete. Skilled nursing services will continue to be available through local home health providers.

CSL and Pinnacle Living will work together during the transition from nursing to assisted living to determine staffing needs and any associates not retained will be offered a severance package from Pinnacle Living. It is expected there will be future opportunities to grow employment as renovations are completed and occupancy grows.

CSL will begin management of the community next month once the nursing beds are decertified. The transaction is expected to be complete before the end of the year with construction starting shortly thereafter.

For a listing of other communities nearby, visit our communities page: https://www.commonwealthsl.com/our-communities/.

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Talking to Your Employer About Caregiving

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The American Senior Housing Association provides a tremendous amount of helpful information for caregivers and families researching senior living options through their blog, Ageless Advice. The following post came directly from their site and addresses the issue of work/caregiving balance which so many families face.

“I’m trying to be a good employee, but taking care of my mom at the same time is making it hard. I feel guilty leaving work for her appointments, but there’s no one else to do it. I’m stressed and worried that I’ll lose my job.”

Working daughters make up the bulk of family caregivers, and they’re feeling the pressure. According to the Daughters in the Workplace North American Research Report, one in four working daughters:

  • Say their career growth has suffered because they’re caregivers
  • Feel their supervisor is unsympathetic to their caregiver responsibilities
  • Believe there’s a stigma associated with taking time off to be a caregiver

Whether you’re a new family caregiver or a veteran, how can you talk to your employer about being a caregiver so you can get some support with balancing work and caregiving?

Start with HR

Ask your Human Resources department about the company’s policies and programs that support caregivers. Some companies have resources to help you find community services, legal or financial assistance, caregiver support groups, counseling or respite care. They may also offer caregiving leave or flexible scheduling. If your company doesn’t have any policies in place, they might be open to making some. Download this toolkit to help your employer learn how they can support their working caregivers.

Under the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA), eligible employees are entitled to unpaid leave for up to 12 weeks per year without losing health benefits or job security so they can care for a spouse, child or parent with a serious health condition. The law doesn’t require companies to pay you during time off.

  • You can take those 12 weeks all at once or in smaller pieces.
  • To qualify, you must have worked for the company for at least 1,250 hours in the past 12 months.
  • Companies are required by law to tell you your rights under FMLA, and if you qualify, to offer you leave.
  • Employers may not threaten you or make your work life harder because you request a leave.

It’s important to note that companies with fewer than 50 employees are exempt from FMLA. And that means unless there are state or city laws in place, they’re not required to make accommodations or give you any time off.

The Americans With Disabilities Act (ADA) allows for employees taking time off to care for a disabled parent to receive the same treatment as employees taking time off to care for disabled children. The ADA also offers protection against losing your job or harassment due to taking leave.

Talk to Your Supervisor

You may not feel comfortable sharing personal information with your supervisor, but they can be a great ally for you. Good bosses don’t want to lose good employees, and many will work with you to find solutions.

  • Make notes about what you want to say and what you hope to get out of your conversation. It will help you stay on track and not leave out important points.
  • Be clear and realistic as you explain your caregiving role and how it’s impacting your work-life balance.
  • Explain what you’ve been doing to try and juggle work and caregiving. Tell them what’s worked and what hasn’t.
  • Have some ideas about how you might proceed in ways that don’t cost the company more money or time. These ideas are to start a longer conversation — there may be more than one way to achieve your goals.
  • Be flexible and willing to compromise. If a flexible work schedule isn’t possible, perhaps a change in schedule or working from home one or two days a week is.

Look for Additional Support

If your parent needs more care than you can give and you still need to keep your job, it may be time to consider other resources.

  • Many senior living communities offer respite care for caregivers who need a break every now and then. Knowing your parent has a safe, caring place to go for a few days can let you focus on a big project or take a work trip.
  • If your parent lives out of town or a longer drive across town, consider bringing them closer to you. An assisted living or memory care community near you could provide the help they need while letting you be closer to them — cutting down on your travel time and easing your caregiving stress. Explore senior living options near you.

Being a caregiver is hard, especially when you work full-time. But having honest conversations with your employer can go a long way toward making life a little easier.

Sources:
AARP
The U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission
Elizz.com
Northeast Business Group on Health

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